But if he did, I wouldn't hate the person he was with I would hate my partner. I was in a serious relationship for many years and it would have killed me to know that he cheated. The married men I've been with have been school teachers, police officers, Wall Street businessmen and men who cheat while their wives are pregnant. I've even slept with a man the day before he got married.Īs I enter my 30s, I wonder where life will take me. I feel bad they live a life where they truly think they're in a happy marriage. They replied, "Yes." They told me they were straight, but enjoyed getting it on with men because their wives didn't know how or were just plain boring in bed.ĭo I feel bad for all the wives? Yes, I do. I asked all of them if they were married. Later that night when I was done, most of the guys that came over wrote me asking how long I was in town for and if they could swing by again before I left. As they started to come into my room, I noticed that each of them had a wedding ring on. After he left, I had a few other guys over. I acted like nothing had happened but I was a little shocked.
Pick out a movie for us to watch tonight. I told her I was picking up food for her and the kids," he said with a straight face and picked up. "Hey, babe, sorry it's taking so long. I closed the door and walked over to him. Then, right when we were going for it, his phone started to ring. He walked in and moved to the foot of the bed but didn't sit. If you want to stay with your wives, you need to end it now and focus on what you’ve got.The lights in the room were off. You really can’t have your cake and eat it without someone getting hurt, so it’s time for a lot of talking and soul searching. Just bear in mind that your sexual encounters could be so exciting because they’re forbidden and they’re happening in places where you risk being caught – that has a powerful hold on anyone. If you’ll feel truly happy and fulfilled, and true to yourselves, then go for it. You have to ask yourselves if what you have is worth risking everything for. However, if you want to be together you have to accept that some people will be hurt and devastated – your wives certainly. If you truly don’t want your marriages to end, you need to stay away from each other and concentrate on making your relationships work. You’re betraying the people who love and trust you. That part of it has nothing to do with your sexuality. I’d have the same advice for anyone – whether they were gay or straight: you’re married and you’re being unfaithful and it’s wrong. We don’t want to leave our families and we realise the upset it would cause if people found out.ĭo we keep quiet for another 10 years and hope it happens again or do we do it often and hope it keeps our needs subdued?
Neither of us know how to cope with these feelings. He looked down at me and the next thing I knew, we’d left the pub and were having sex in a back garden along the road. Then a few weeks ago the two of us were out for a drink and went to the toilet at the same time. Since then we’ve gotten on with our own lives – marriage, kids and careers – so we don’t get to see each other often.Īnd we’ve never mentioned what happened between us, apart from saying what a great holiday we all had. The next day when we were all at the beach, the two of us made excuses so we could go back to the hotel for more, but we couldn’t wait and stopped at a bar and had sex in the toilet. We were sharing a room and one night we went back to the hotel and I got in his bed. I could blame alcohol, but I wanted it to happen as I’ve always had a ‘gay streak’. A number of years ago, in my early 20s, I went on a lads’ holiday and me and my best mate had sex.